Senior Engineer Burnout and Promotion Dilemma
Problem
Senior engineers confront exploding workloads, difficulty setting boundaries, limited internal promotion pathways, and a lack of formal leveling mechanisms, resulting in burnout, uncertainty about future career direction, and a dilemma over whether to leave the company.
Pain points
- Senior engineers face exploding workloads and a 'death spiral', forcing them to say no and set boundaries.
- Limited internal promotion channels lead to turnover or the need to seek external opportunities.
- Absence of formal leveling and mentorship makes self‑calibration difficult for seniors.
- Burnout resulting in sabbaticals creates uncertainty about future career direction.
Questions to verify
- Do you feel that your current workload has become excessive, leading to burnout?
- Are you considering leaving the company to pursue better positions elsewhere?
- Would you benefit from your employer providing formal leveling criteria or mentorship programs to help senior engineers calibrate their careers?
Evidence
quote · @Anonymous
The senior you get the more you realise that the only reward for hard work is more work. Then, you learn to say no more often and set boundaries and negotiate like if you want me to work on project A, then I won’t have capacity to work on project B.Unfortunately, this is something you have to learn through experience and cannot be taught by someone else.
quote · @Anonymous
> and what happens is they start disappearing for longer periods of time... they quit their jobs because they think, “you know what, this is not salvageable.”I've interviewed several great senior engineer candidates over the last few years, and then had to watch do this and walk themselves right out the door inside of 6 months. I've developed a marked preference for promoting internally, because you get longer to head this sort of thing off.Incidentally, this sort of thing is why software engineering desperately needs some sort of formal levelling criteria and/or mentorship programs. It's really hard for senior folks to calibrate themselves against their rapidly shrinking peer group.
quote · @Anonymous
At least we know this wasn't written by an LLM (unless it was GPT-2).The best advice I can give on moving your career forward is to not try and get a promotion at your current job. Apply for better positions at other companies while you still have your current role. You'll have maximum leverage and unlimited time to choose the best possible option. Trying to claw your way up the ladder in a single company is the least efficient (and more often than not hopeless) strategy.
quote · @Anonymous
I’m in this exact position and I don’t know the next steps forward. I’m on a sabbatical because I burnt out after a massive project but the expectation is that I come back and lead another massive project.I’ve yet to decide if that’s what I actually want or if there is another solution out there. Is leaving the only real solution?
quote · @Anonymous
I'm a staff engineer and I haven't thought about trying to get promoted a single day in my life. Do good work and be nice the rest follows
quote · @Anonymous
i’m very happy in the “terminal” senior position at my company, there are higher levels but it’s fine to stay at the level that i’m at forever. i don’t need to pick up extra work because im not trying to get promoted and i can usually get by just by having smart sounding ideas in meetings, helping figuring out the more ambiguous tasks and just doing enough to meet expectations. the expectations of the higher levels seem pretty unpleasant , and the guys at lower levels than me are happy to pick up extra work because they want to get promoted lol
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